Wednesday, June 23, 2010

25% Off Fairy Day Sale In My Sister's Store


I love this store, and not just because my sister threw caution to the wind, quit her day job, and started this out of her garage and turned it into a very successful enterprise. I really do love fantasy art.

Tomorrow for Fairy Day she's offering 25% off your entire order, which is a big deal because some of the things she carries are rare, limited editions. She also has things from Harry Potter, Twilight, Nightmare Before Christmas, and Hello Kitty.

So I want to share the news, not just for my sister, but because some of you might like the mama fairy art or Twilight chocolates or stuffed Fawkes from Harry Potter.

Here's a link to the sale announcement:
http://archive.constantcontact.com/fs005/1101970764366/archive/1103506840269.html

And here's a link to the latest newsletter I did for her:
http://archive.constantcontact.com/fs005/1101970764366/archive/1103472561435.html

Wednesday, June 16, 2010

My Birth Plan

My birth plan is currently "don't tell any birth professionals your birth plan in advance or they'll have time to thwart it."

Not that I don't trust my Ob. She herself has been quite fair. But, I know that doctors are under pressure from hospitals and their "increase profits and avoid law suits" mentality.

So, the birth plan is to take things head on as they arise, and if I'm not in a position to stand up for myself or my baby, it's Bryan's job to do it.

Here's the general informal plan:

1. I will not be going into the hospital until either 1, the pain is becoming too intense or 2, my blood pressure shoots up. And yes, I plan on testing my own blood pressure at home, in case it goes up the day before labor like it did last time. I want to get into the hospital sooner rather than later is that is the case.

2. Whichever one of us is filling out paperwork will cross off every incidence of "doctors have permission to do whatever they deem is necessary" and replaced with "will discuss every procedure in advance with one of us, even in an emergency."

3. I am going to eat and drink whenever I damn well feel like it.

4. There will be no scalpels anywhere near my vagina. I will let the doctor know this as soon as I see her, and if she tries to be sneaky about it, it is Bryan's job to guard my vagina anytime anyone other than him is looking at, and if someone goes near it with a scalpel for an episiotomy, or any other tool, his job is to stop them.

5. If I'm not medicated, there will be no constant fetal monitoring and no "just in case" IV. If I need the walking epidural, then I understand the monitor will be important, especially since unborn Connor had a reaction to the first one. However, there will be no internal monitors. Like an idiot I let my first OB bully me into one for Connor and he still has a scar on his scalp from this "harmless" procedure. They also have to break the waters to do this, and if they aren't broken yet, I want everyone to leave the membranes alone.

6. If it seems I will be birthing vaginally after all, I will be sitting up. My feet will not go into anyone's stirrups, nor will anyone be holding my legs up and out of the way. When the baby comes out, I will reach for her and demand that she be given to me immediately. She will be put on my breast to nurse. A well baby check can be done while she is in my arms. As with the first 2 children, there will be no eye ointments and no shots. My baby is not a drug using whore, and if I had Hepatitis, a vaccine would be too late, anyway.

7. If a c-section is required, the baby will be handed to me this time. I will not be put completely under. Not that I hate Bryan for getting to spend the first hours of our children's lives with them, but it's my turn. You can wash the blood off of her later, or hand us a cloth and let us do it.

8. The baby will never be taken away from us, not for billilights, not for well-baby checks. Not putting up with that this time, and since our dear friends will be watching the kids for us, Bryan won't need to go home at night, so no one will be able to take advantage of me in the middle fo the night when I'm too exhausted to put up a fight. If the baby needs billilights, they will be in our room. If the ped wants to check on her, he can haul is backside from the nursery to my bedside.

9. I did forget to mention in the beginning - there will be no induction. Connor was two weeks after his "due date" and he was born under 8 lbs. If a baby stays in there longer than doctors think they should, 99% of the time it's because they NEED to. The baby will decide when she is done, unless I develop pre-eclampsia.

And there you have it. And yes, if it's another c-section, I am getting the tubes tied.

Friday, June 11, 2010

Calling It Quits on Prenatal Madness

Let me take you on a weird gestational-diabetes related journey.

I last saw my doctor over a month ago. She saw that I was testing my own blood in the mornings, so she said I could skip the glucose tolerance test. For information on what that is, see my previous post on prenatal tests by CLICKING HERE.

At my next visit, I saw a nurse practitioner instead of my Ob/Gyn. I was not as fond of her. The next appointment, it was her again.  This time there was sugar in my urine. She decided to recommend me to their endocrinologist (diabetes specialist). She also said I should 1, be keeping my blood sugar much lower than I was and 2, should start coming in ONCE A WEEK, and 3, start testing my blood 4 TIMES A DAY.

I asked for an A1C, which tests your average blood sugar over the previous 2-3 months. And I went in to see the endocrinologist.

So let me set the stage.

I have a little machine called a glucometer which test the levels of glucose in a drop of blood. Regular diabetics are told that their fasting levels, or "morning before breakfast" levels, should be between 90 and 130. One after after you eat a meal, the level should be under 200 and go down from there. Things that increase the levels of sugar in your blood include not just cake or candy but also fruit, bread, whole grains, and beans - entire wholesome groups of food. My average fasting level was 124 and my average after-meal level was about 180.

The A1C results are considered normal if the number is 7 or under. My mother has type 2 diabetes and take insulin. Her last A1C was 6.4, which is considered under control.

My A1C was 5.2 - perfectly normal.

Enter the endocrinologist.

He said that despite my excellent A1C results, it doesn't give any "current" information. He said a pregnant woman's fasting levels should be under 90 and after-meal levels should be 130. When I balked at this, he actually said "Don't you care about your baby?"

Nice try, jerk. I'm not a 21-year old first time mom. I'm 35 and I don't tolerate BS anymore.

I said "That is NOT fair. Of course I do. You're asking me to cut back on highly nutritious foods. I get to know why."

He laughed nervously and then put his "I'm the all-knowing doctor" pants back on and told me it was better to be safe than sorry, which seems to be common birth professional speech for "we love insane medical interventions that have minimal indication for actual necessity so that we keep our relevance."

He gave me a brand new glucometer, told me to test 4 times a day, set me up with an appointment for a Dietician, and told me to call his office in 4 days with my numbers, and if they aren't changing, I'll need to go on insulin.

The next morning, I had unsweetened oatmeal for breakfast and it shot my blood sugar to 237. For the heck of it, I tested again 2 seconds later, and the results were 180-something.

I spent the next 2 days testing twice at each sitting, sometimes more. One morning, 3 tests in a row went from 88 to 139.

I did not call the endocrinologist 4 days later. I did not go to my Dietician's appointment. I have not seen the NP ever week. I canceled every appointment, stopped testing my blood, and went back to fresh fruit for breakfast. I am not going to get babysitters twice a week for the next 3 months over "just in case" madness.

I reject this.

As I write this, I have seen no one in about a month and should probably call for a check up. I'll be asking for my actual ob/gyn and refusing to see NPs. I am happily eating pineapple, which is really high on the carbohydrate index, and organic granola cereal, and 2 pieces of bread with my BLT instead of 1.

I have also been online accessing full medical journals through Bryan's university account. Not just abstracts on PubMed - actual studies. No one can tell me why pregnant women have to be held to stricter blood sugar standards than actual diabetics, unless they had diabetes before they even became pregnant, because the potential for damage done to a fetus is during the first trimester. Gestational Diabetes shows up in the second half of the pregnancy, after the risks are primarily gone.

Insulin and other medications also have the risk of confusing the baby's body, and causing it to produce less of its own insulin as a result, which causes problems when the baby is born.

The American Diabetes Association says GD affects around 4% of pregnant women. Already, that's uncommon. It also says "Treatment for gestational diabetes aims to keep blood glucose levels equal to those of pregnant women who don't have gestational diabetes." Okay, so why are my birth professionals asking me to keep my blood sugar levels insanely LOWER than regular pregnant women? They also say "For you as the mother-to-be, treatment for gestational diabetes helps lower the risk of a cesarean section birth that very large babies may require." Big babies almost never require a c-section, just a doctor who actually knows what they are doing. This is an unnecessary fear tactic.


I found one study cited frequently to justify the lower levels called the "Hyperglycemia and Adverse Pregnancy Outcomes (HAPO)" stud, which stated that as maternal blood glucose levels increase, so do risks of c-section, pre-eclampsia, and babies born with stressed kidneys and low blood glucose levels. Bryan's university doesn't have online access to this study, so I haven't been able to determine exactly how much the risk changes. 5%? 50%? One review of the study said treatment has the potential to provide "with a 67% reduction in serious perinatal complications." But, it doesn't tell me how high those risks were in the first place. The results were all based on women given the one-time glucose tolerance test and then followed accordingly. None of them had results based on a glucometer that sometimes differs by 50mgs on the same blood sample.

I've decided the risks don't merit this insanity. My blood pressure keeps coming up normal, the baby is growing normal, I'm not cutting back on whole grains or taking a drug or coming in every week for 3 months. I'm taking a break, and then checking in with my Ob when I've detoxed emotionally.