Wednesday, August 26, 2009
"I think that the most powerful social force interfering with trustful parenting in our time is the school system. The power of schools over children and families has increased steadily over the decades, to the point where it is almost impossible now to be a trustful parent of a child in a typical public or private school...
...The school system operates on the assumption that children, including teenagers, are incompetent to make their own decisions. They are not competent to pick their own reading (even their own summer reading!); they are not competent to learn on their own initiative. The assumption is that children need constant supervision in order to learn what they need to know to become, eventually, effective adults. Children left to their own devices will just waste their time, or worse, get into serious trouble. And you, the parent, may be seen as negligent if you do trust your child...
...The loss, of course, lies in the children's own sense of autonomy and personal responsibility. Sadly, in many cases, the assumption that children are incompetent becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. The children themselves become convinced of their incompetence.
To be a trustful parent, and to raise your children with the wonderful sense that they are trusted and trustworthy, you may have to remove them from the conventional school system..."
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Tuesday, August 04, 2009
Monday, August 03, 2009
Step 1 - Skin-to-skin contact starts as soon as infant is stable, and is the first step toward breastfeeding.
Step 2 - Mouth / nose against the nipple. Baby may just rest with mouth against nipple.
Step 3 - Mother expresses milk for the baby - With mouth against nipple mother expresses drops of milk or colostrum onto baby’s lip. Baby may lick nipple or open mouth and---
Step 4 - Smell, Suckle breast, or may open mouth and hold nipple or take one or two tentative sucks.*
Step 5 - Rooting - Baby is awake and alert and actively searching for breast. Putting hands into mouth, licking and showing feeding cues. *
Step 6 - Awake / alert for first suckling. May take one or two sucks, or have a sucking burst of five to fifteen sucks, with long pauses between sucking bursts, or may take a few sucks and come off breast. *
Step 7 - Holding on to the nipple- Suckling and swallowing. Infant has sustained nursing session, may last for 5 to 10 minutes or longer, with frequent pauses but stays latched on to nipple. May nurse with eyes open or closed. Soft swallows can be heard (sounds like ah). *
Step 8 - Breast Meal - Check weight, reduces supplements. As infant takes more milk at breast, he/she will need fewer supplements. Consider pre and post test weights on Baby Weigh Scale. *
Step 9 - Breastfeeding partly on demand. When infant is awake and showing feeding cues, and mother is available, baby should be breastfeed. When sleepy or not interested in feeding Baby should be gavaged.
Step 10- Mother and baby are together day and night and breastfeeding frequently. This step often does not happen until after discharge from the hospital, and frequently is around or after the date baby was due.
*A "wheel" rotates in both directions. Baby may be at Step 6 for one feed, and then move back to Step 4 for the next several feedings. Patience and support, for both the mother and infant are most important!
"Too stressful?" she asked. "Well, let's just see." Sebastian was already connected to monitors that traced his heart rate, his breathing, and his temperature on the computer. She settled him against her chest again and buttoned up the bottom of her shirt to keep him warm and secure. We watched the lines on the graph. His breathing became more regular, his temperature more stable, and the pattern of his heart beating less jagged and erratic.
The nurse looked, too, and didn't say a word. But no one suggested he be put back in the incubator, and from that day on, until Sebastian came home three weeks later, he spent much of the time enjoying KMC -- easing his transition into the world."
Teresa Pitman, From NEW BEGINNINGS, Vol. 24 No. 2, March-April 2007, pp. 52-55